Money Dates: How to Make Talking About Money Fun
In a world where money talk often feels like navigating a minefield, how refreshing would it be to turn those potentially explosive discussions into a serene walk in the park? What if I told you that it’s not only possible, but it can also be an enjoyable adventure you and your partner look forward to? Yes, you heard that right! Welcome to the concept of Money Dates – a revolutionary approach to talking about finances in your relationship.
Create a peaceful environment: Imagine sitting down with your significant other in a cozy, candle-lit corner of your favorite café, or perhaps nestled in a quiet spot surrounded by nature. There’s laughter, there’s warmth, and there’s the comforting sound of plans and dreams being woven together.
Create a safe space: During these conversations, it is vital to bring both honesty and heart to the table. It's about listening as much as it is about sharing. Talk about your financial dreams, but also about your fears. It's about creating a safe space where vulnerabilities can be shared without judgment.
Keep it short: Money dates shouldn't turn into a weekend Money Summit. Set a time limit, ideally not more than an hour or two, and stick to it. This will help keep the conversation focused and prevent any potential disagreements from escalating. It is recommended to keep your regular financial discussions concise, lasting no more than 20-30 minutes, if possible.
Prepare for your date: Brainstorm questions to ask each other. Examples include, “What are our long-term financial goals?”, “How can we support each other in reaching those goals?”, and “What steps can we take to improve our financial situation?” Making a list of topics beforehand ensures that the conversation stays focused and productive.
**End on a positive note: **Whether you are discussing budgets or investments, make sure to end the date on a positive note. Celebrate your progress, big or small, and express gratitude for each other's contributions. This creates a positive association with money talk and strengthens your bond as a couple.
Consider changing the way you approach money conversations to achieve your financial goals with more ease and fun. I wish we had access to these tips earlier in our relationship. To learn more about the benefits of money dates, check out the latest episode of our 'For Better AND Worth' podcast."